Hello, and L'Shanah Tovah! Here is my sermon from the first day of Rosh HaShanah:
The Ultimate Invitation: You, God, and the Relationship that Waits
Relationships are hard work.
Just ask Dr. Phil whose “Relationship Rescue” and workbook are top sellers, or Oprah’s show a few weeks ago on “Extreme Breakups.” Seen the shelves in the self-help section of Barnes and Noble lately? Shelf after shelf after shelf on relationships: husbands and wives, parents and children, workers and bosses, and any other variation of relationship that you could possibly imagine.
What makes us human beings so complicated to get along with? And if we’re so hard to get along with, what does that say about our ability to engage in “the Ultimate Relationship”, that is the one between us and God? We humans need some guidance in this area. So I’ve turned to the ultimate book and someone who knew something about relating to God.
Today on the Torah Show is Moses, relationship expert, here to provide us with his advice to relating to the Ultimate One.
Welcome Moses. Tell us, you are the one of the only human beings that we know of to have had a relationship with the Holy One, blessed be God. What was it like?
Well, I’ve got to tell you, it wasn’t easy. I mean, I’m human, and he’s, well, God.
So tell us, what was your secret? I mean, we’re living quite a few years down the road from what we’ve read in the Torah about your relationship with God. We haven’t seen you come down from the mountain, or been able to pick-up manna when we’ve been hungry. We’ve never seen the sea part and we’ve never seen the thunder over the mountain when you received the Ten Commandments. So tell us, make it easier for us to understand how we should relate with God.
Well, David, the issues you raise are exactly what concerned me, and more importantly, concerned God, as I was reaching the end of my time. Most of the time you’ll remember that I’m talking in the Book of Deuteronomy. I’m talking to the Children of Israel before they cross the river into the land that God promised to the people. I had many concerns, and they can be put into two categories: ben adam v’chavero, which means between a human and another human, and ben adam v’makom, which means between a human and God.
Why was it so important for you to talk about this?
Because I knew, as did God, that the relationship between the Children of Israel and God was going to change once they entered the land. No more would they have me as an intermediary. God would no longer play the same direct role in our day-to-day lives as we had experienced it in the desert. So, even though God would be there, behind everything in everyone’s lives, to be aware of that would take heightened human consciousness.
That makes sense, Moses. But as I said in the introduction we people have a hard time relating to each other. How should we relate to God? And how do we know God wants us to be in such a relationship>
Well, David, the second part of your question is easy. God most definitely wants to be in relationship to each and every person here. I want to point out something: in my very last speech in the Torah I remind people that God understands that relationships become estranged, have ups and downs, go through difficulties, and sometimes get completely lost. I know from 40 years in the desert with the people’s complaining and obstinance that this is not an easy relationship to foster. From three days after we left Egypt, the people complained about wanting to go back. When I went up on the mountain, they made the Golden Calf. When they complained about the manna, birds rained down on them and they ate and died. The journey is not one of a people perfectly content with their lot, nor is it of a people who do not, at times, have difficult relations with God.
So this is what I’ve concluded: human nature being what it is, people need to hear the same message time and again. So my final spoken message UB the Torah is about this relationship. In short, my message is this: if you’re estranged from God, then return to the relationship. God would rather have a living relationship with its ups and down than to be completely absent from your life. And I think that He makes that pretty clear.
Okay, Moses, if Holy One makes it clear, can you make it clearer for us?
Well, in chapter 30 of Deuteronomy you’ll see it. I remind folks that if they return to God, God will more than abundantly return to them by:
v restore your fortunes
v take you back in love
v bring you together again from all the peoples where YHVH your God has scattered you; Even from the ends of the world, YHVH your God will gather you
v bring you to the land that your fathers’ possessed and you shall possess it
v Will make you more prosperous and more numerous than your fathers
v Open your heart and the hearts of your offspring to love YHVH your God with all your heart and soul, in order that you may live
v Inflict all those curses upon the enemies and foes who persecuted you
v Grant you abounding prosperity in all your undertakings and in the issue of your womb, the offspring of your cattle, and the produce of your soil
v again delight in your well-being, as He did in that of your fathers
So Moses, in short, you’re telling us, that this relationship is always available to us, and that even though you’re not around to speak to God face-to-face, the relationship that we have with God CAN BE JUST AS SIGNIFICANT?.
David, that is EXACTLY what I’m talking about. Accessibility, that all that has placed before the people is accessible. You do not need me or to see the miracles such as God’s hovering presence in cloud or fire through miracles. God is there if you are willing to be there. And if you are estranged from God and return, God will return ABUNDUNTLY to you.
Moses, you’ve been a wonderful guest. Thank you for sharing with us your relationship advice about how God wants us to be in relationship with God. But one last question: how do we moderns go about doing that?
Well, David, as this point, I’ll toss it back to you so that you can share some of your insights from all of that time in rabbinical school. You have my stories, my voice and my ideas, but now they all belong to you, to make it yours.
Wow, Moses. That’s some challenge. But let me see what I can do to make this tangible for this holy community before me. Thank you for taking time on Rosh HaShanah, which must be a busy time of year for you, to spend time with us.
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Moses’ relationship advice perhaps gives us an incentive to be in a relationship with God, but it is framed in a lexicon of its time. For us to think about this relationship, we need to place it in terms that we can relate to ourselves, here and now.
With humans, even though relationships can be difficult, we at least have human emotions and the benefit of speech to make our relationships happen. Yet with God, for whom none of us has ever seen or heard, at least not face-to-face, what are our options?
In thinking about how to relate to God, the best model that I could think of is three broad categories derived from how we relate to each other as humans:
(1) When we care about someone, we think about them, they are part of our daily consciousness
(2) We relate to others by communicating on a regular basis.
(3) We do things together.
Let’s now see how we can use these models for fostering a relationship with the Holy One.
Relating to God, Part One: Making God Part of our Consciousness
No doubt that when we have a relationship with someone, they are part of our consciousness. So, too, having a relationship with God first requires thinking about God.
This is not thinking in compartmentalized moments like when you’re here in synagogue, but at all times of your daily being.
Having God as part of your consciousness creates “radical amazement,” articulated by the great mid-century Jewish philosopher Abraham Joshua Heschel. That is, when you take things you take for granted and see how truly extraordinary they are, you are relating to God. The miracle of your life, your being, and being in a world that supports your being, is nothing short of “radically amazing.” Think about it.
Relating to God, Part Two: Communications
Next, any good relationship requires communications.
How do we communicate with God?
Through prayer. Through the language of prayer, we humans give expression to our most innermost thoughts and feelings. Prayer can be what we have here written on the page, or they can be prayers that come to your lips.
Our tradition has a long and honored past of prayer being both fixed and fluid. Direct the words toward God and they become prayer. There are many kinds of prayers that are available, literally at your fingertips, that have come down through the years. The psalms are particularly wonderful places to look for words of inspiration and a range of emotions.
Prayer can come at all times: to reflect on the daily miracles that attend to us, to special moments, to times when you are angry with God. Yes, I said anger. It’s important to remember that having a relationship means that all of the emotional qualities of relating come with it. Happiness. Anger. Sadness. Joy. Whatever we bring to our relationship and to our prayer, God can handle it.
If you want to make your prayer more concrete, another way you can experience God is by communicating through writing. Create a spiritual journal where you’re writing as if only you and God will read what is there.
Relating to God, Part Three: Getting Together
How do we act on our relationship with God, for as I’ve said many times, we are God’s hands and feet in this world. How we choose to act in our lives reflect our relationship with God. When we visit the sick, comfort the bereaved, take care of the less fortunate, and the whole range of mitzvoth that are available to us, we are acting truly as a partner with God is continuing the work of Creation.
When we take advantage of the beautiful rituals our tradition has created from lighting Shabbat candles and making Kiddush to having a seder.
When we study Torah and Jewish texts, we come together with God. Our tradition holds that when two Jews come together to study, the presence of God, the Shechinah, dwells between them.
I hope that I’ve done Moses proud in coming up with these three ways that we can create and nurture our relationship with God: through adding God to our consciousness, through communicating with God regularly, and through getting together with God through action and learning.
But back to what I think was Moses’ main point. God wants us to be in relationship with the holy one. Moses makes that abundantly clear: return to God and God will return to you, a return overflowing in abundance.
Taken in its totality, God is offering each and every one of us ultimate invitation to relationship, perhaps the most profound and extraordinary relationship for a human being to have.
Consider yourself invited.